Guys & Their Feelings and Bye Bye Babies

I enjoyed listening to Terry Crews speaking about his views on Manhood, Feminism and the Mindset That Leads to Rape because it was refreshing to hear those topics being discussed by a man. I loved when he said feminism was about "true gender equality" because it's the truth. Feminism is usually defined as the idea of women wanting to control men, take a man's job, or just flat out be above men and that's not what feminists stand for. He also spoke about how men are afraid to show their weaknesses. Weaknesses being when they're afraid, in need of help, etc. Like the example he used with his son in the movies. His son was afraid to be afraid because he felt that he was letting his dad down by being scared. He let his son know that it's okay to be scared and it's also okay to tell his dad that he's scared and not to be ashamed of it. Men shouldn't hide the way these weaknesses just because society tells them to. It doesn't make you less of a man, it doesn't make you a pussy. And from a girl's point of view, guys who express their feelings are hot! Girls like that! We want to know how you feel all the time and how we make you feel, don't hide it from us especially if we tell you already. Okay back on topic, the only part of Terry Crews' interview that I didn't agree with was when he said people rape people solely because they "think they're above them or they own them" (them being the victim.) The reason I don't agree with this is because I don't believe rapists have that mindset. Most rapists are psychologically messed up from some traumatic event and probably rape to relieve that anger/stress, or they just find it fun to rape people for some reason. That's not to say some rapists rape their victims because they do feel like they own them or like they are above them, however I feel like they have a deeper motive than that. (Not trying to justify rape just FYI rape is still disgusting and horrible)

Caitlin, THANK YOU FOR THIS ARTICLE! Being a young woman, I get these questions all the time! "So do you plan to have kids?" "When?" "How many?" I don't even know if I want kids, and my family is always in my face about it as if I don't have a million other cousins who can carry on the genes if I decide not to. I feel like if I said I don't want to have kids, that I'm breaking one of the Ten Commandments or something. I had mentioned me being on the fence about having kids once to my mom and she looked like she was about to drown in her own tears. I don't know if I'll even be treated the same by my family as my brother if he has kids and I don't. I could be a damn scholar and make six figures and frequently take trips to third world trips to help them out but I didn't have a baby so I didn't live my life to its fullest potential. That's stupid. Just because I have all the equipment down there to house a baby shouldn't mean that I HAVE to have a baby or I've done nothing valuable with my life. I love when she said at the end "Feminism needs Zero Tolerance over baby angst...it can't be about who we might make and what they might do anymore. It has to be about who we are and what we're going to do." Could not have said it better myself.